I thoughts I had covered it all in my previous posts here and there but then I came across Chris GUILLEBEAU article about Tess VIGELAND, and realized that I didn’t quite finish my therapy and my introspection about how important is what is happening to my life right now. I guess it is normal and will take more time than that…
In the Tess VIGELAND’s video, she is giving a speech during WDS 2013 (World Domination Summit 2013) about her choice of giving up her dream job as a national radio anchor with pretty much no back-up plan.
She is entertaining, well for her defense she was speaking for a living for 20 years or so, and its a good 35 mins video to watch while taking your coffee in the morning. It helps to ask yourself the right questions I guess.
She is basically going through what a lot of people in our situation have been probably going through when making a drastic change in your life. When everybody is either scaring the sh.t out of you with questions such as “What the hell are you going to do ?” or unrealistic support advice or catch-phrases like “What a brave choice ! I’d love to do the same ! You gonna make it ! You should have done that earlier !…”.
Here is her book about her story : Leap: Leaving a Job with No Plan B to Find the Career and Life You Really Want
Pretty self explanatory.
Here is a quote :
“What everybody wanted to know was… what are you going to do next?! And I had the lamest answer of them all: I don’t know.
The follow-up question was even worse: Well, what do you WANT to do?
I wanted to go home and curl up with my cats.
No, no, Tess – go read ‘What Color Is Your Parachute!’ Watch some TED Talks about finding your passion! Go take a class that you’ve always wanted to take!
Great advice… But inside my head, I was paralyzed. Getting your brain to really, really open up to all the possibilities, it’s so much harder than I ever imagined.”
I had the same kind of reactions too (like I was telling here) and actually nothing really fit what you would like to hear.
Tess VIGELAND is expressing exactly what has been going through my mind for the past 5 weeks already and also the “And what now ?” part.
It’s true that it is easy to stay around your comfort zone, and capitalizing on what you know, with people you know… but did I went through all of this just to do the same thing ? I loved my job and the people I was working with and for. We are still close, and will still be close. I just needed to make a statement for myself. So doing the same thing over again in a different manner or under another name, is not really the whole purpose.
First, I took a few weeks off traveling to France and Mexico with friends and family. It was great. It forced me to recharged the batteries, to take some time to think over the next chapter, and now, well, I am back to school. Back to entrepreneurship or maybe “freelancing” would be a more appropriate word.
So now, like Tess said : “Act 2” !
“Leaving a sure thing for a vast unknown is terrifying”
No doubt about that. But now it all comes down to putting a routine in place. I filled up my calendar with coffee and lunch meetings with meaningful and inspiring people. Spending more time reading and learning through books, websites and podcast while struggling on feeling Okay with a very different schedule than a usual 8 (am) to 8 (pm) job (for some it’s like 9 to 5, but for me it was more like a 8 to 8 job).
However, I am still (at least I believe I am) not losing sight of the whole reason for this journey, let’s recap and focus :
- Getting back the control of my time
- Exercising more
- Traveling more
- Doing things I love, the way I’d like
So far, I am on track…
But if you have any advice to make it better, it would be much appreciated !